Where to draw the line with +1’s.

Writing your wedding guest list is HARD! Whether you are wanting a super intimate experience or want the party to end all parties with everyone there – drawing the line with guests can be blurry.

So how do you decide who comes and who doesn’t?

I like to use the circle method. Here is how it works:

1. Grab a large sheet of paper

2. Draw 4 circles, large leading into small in the centre of the paper

3. Inside the smallest circle in the centre, write the names of your closest family, the ones who simply must be there! Consider whether they have a new partner or would like to invite a +1. Even ask them! They are in your inner circle after all!

4. In the next circle out, write the names of you and your partner’s closest family and friends who, while not in your immediate circle, you really, really want them there! Their partners or +1's don't necessarily need to be in the same circle.

5. You can see where I am going here – next circle, the ones you would like to come but won’t be super bummed if they can’t make it.

6. Next circle, the ones you are on the fence about – they might be your work friend, or a new friend or that cousin your mum said you have to invite but you haven’t seen them since 2018.

7. Starting from your inner circle and moving out, count out how many guests you are limited to for your wedding. When you reach your limit. Then, when deciding who's in or out, it should be a little clearer with where to draw the line.

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